Yesterday I read a letter in either the Independent or Redwood Times. It came from a local trucker lamenting that a woman in some local coffee establishment has been hitting on him. He already has a girl, you see. And while she’s pretending she’s not hitting on him, she really is. He knows it. He has a girl (he mentioned that at least twice) an he wants this woman to have some class.
Well, at first I thought the man was really into himself and maybe making assumptions and that maybe the woman is just being friendly to be friendly. My perception was dashed this morning, and I wonder if my encounter was with the same woman. As I was paying for my coffee, she said “I hope you have a great morning.” And she smiled when she said it!
Not simply “have a good morning,” but “I hope you have a great morning!”
Yeah.
Think I’m going to have to call her boss.
Addendum: Our own version of Sam Malone’s letter was published in the Redwood Times and it’s now online.
And here are some comic book covers where male heroes are depicted as sex objects. We should push for more comic books by and for men where we wouldn’t be so objectified.
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January 29, 2009 at 9:49 am
Hank Sims
Harlot.
January 29, 2009 at 10:05 am
Moonshadow
Hmmmmm . . . you shure you weren’t giving her reason to flirt? ;-p
I might have to tell!
January 29, 2009 at 10:48 am
Ernie's Place
Eric, in the interest of your modesty I’m going to check this out right now! If she hit’s on me, I’ll give her a lecture on how men hate to be treated like meat, and to knock it off.
Of course, you realize that you just increased their business by about twenty percent.
January 29, 2009 at 10:59 am
Da Man
That Hussy! I like it much better when I walk in the door and they sneer and say: ” You again!”
January 29, 2009 at 11:40 am
Eric Kirk
Hmmmmm . . . you shure you weren’t giving her reason to flirt? ;-p
I might have to tell!
Oh, I forgot about the part where I said “I’ll show you mine if you show me yours.”
January 29, 2009 at 1:38 pm
Anonymous
That letter was hilarious. I think it was as much of a joke as yours, but I can’t tell for sure.
January 29, 2009 at 4:29 pm
Not A Native
Awhile back, there was criticism that large retailers didn’t have a “personal” touch. Several large chain retailers including Safeway and Longs trained cashiers to smile and give a “have a nice day” type greeting. It didn’t take long until women complained they were being harassed, men taking the greeting personally and seriously. The procedures were changed back to the more formal “hello” greeting.
While waitresses and bar maids often do a little verbal exchange, in hopes of a big tip, cashiers can’t get any more money for being extra friendly. They shouldn’t have to put up with unwanted advances.
January 29, 2009 at 5:29 pm
middle child
I can relate. It happens to me all the time. These beautiful young women are always secretly throwing themselves on me pretending that they are just being polite. Believe me, I know the difference and their lust is clothed in the thinnest of veils. I don’t generally complain, I figure it’s my burden to bear, being that I’m blessed with good looks and a magnetic personality. But, you know, sometimes I just don’t want to be looked at in that way. Kudos for that truck driver for speaking out.
January 29, 2009 at 5:39 pm
Ann. On
Yeah, when I go out for coffee and the beautiful young women remember my preference (dark, with cream) I know it must be because they are deeply attracted to slightly plump aging mothers.
I can read it in their lovely smiles.
Right.
January 29, 2009 at 9:56 pm
middle child
I’m a short, bald, plump, over ripe, semi-literate sex machine. They can’t take their eyes off of me.
January 30, 2009 at 7:16 am
humboldturtle
If you tipped large, she got what she wanted. That’s her job.
January 30, 2009 at 8:59 am
mresquan
Lots of sexism running wild here.Why not just assume that she is just a friendly person?
January 30, 2009 at 9:11 am
middle child
Don’t chill my buzz turtle.
January 30, 2009 at 9:44 am
Eric Kirk
Lots of sexism running wild here.Why not just assume that she is just a friendly person?
Mark. It’s called irony. Everybody assumes she is just a friendly person.
From Wikipedia:
Verbal irony is a disparity of expression and intention: when a speaker says one thing but means another, or when a literal meaning is contrary to its intended effect. An example of this is sarcasm.
January 30, 2009 at 10:22 am
Auntie Mayme
I have been a waitress. It is hard work. I hope I never have to do it again. Most customers are very nice, but every once in awhile, there is someone would take their problems out on me. I consider it servitude. I worked as a waitress until I got pregnant with my first child, and then my hormones completely took over my body. I just wanted to snap back at people. I quit the job, so I wouldn’t take it out on the customers.
The letter was very funny.
February 2, 2009 at 9:25 am
Eric Kirk
I just want to add that yesterday I was buying auto parts and the guy behind the counter said “have a nice day” and smiled. Is there no end to the sexual harassment?!